All over the internet you'll find lots of tips on wedding planning, but Nowhere will you find the mistakes listed in this article. The list below is based on my experience as a wedding photographer and wedding planner over 12 years, being present at over several hundred weddings and noticing all the mistakes that my former clients or their friends have made and later regretted.
Here is a list of problems you want to avoid on your wedding day, as well as simple solutions to solve them:
A week before the wedding, contact all suppliers. Confirm their presence and make sure they have the correct location and time. That way you avoid any unpleasant surprises.
The most important suppliers are:
An activity that can take up to 5-10 minutes to send a copy/paste message can take away the stress and excitement you're sure to have on your wedding day if you decide to skip this little detail.
When you know how to choose a professional wedding photographer, they should have their own list, with all the details that need their attention and everything they have to do during the program. However, don't let yourself be too late. Help the photographer and help yourself at the same time.
Make a list of things that are important to you, that you really want to be photographed. Be it family photos, interior decorations, cake shots, ring box or anything else you can think of.
No point complaining after the event if you don't have photos of x or y, they can no longer be taken, but you can avoid this happening with just 3 minutes of your time, a pen and some paper that you can give to the photographer on your wedding day.
Carefully choose a pair of comfortable bridal shoes to avoid calluses, anguish and excruciating pain. It's no fun, especially on your wedding day when you're supposed to be on your feet for hours on end, which is overwhelming and has a big impact on your positive energy and well-being.
One solution might be to put your shoes on for 15 minutes at a time, over the course of a few days, either around the house or an evening stroll in the nearby park with your other half.
Both bride and groom should have their own a spare pair of shoes, comfortable and ready to wear, as soon as the first pair puts pressure on your comfort.
NOTES: Add to your “wedding day survival kit” a box of clear silicone plasters, especially for these situations. You'll thank yourself later.
One of most common wedding planning mistakes is when the bride, godmother, bridesmaids, bridesmaids and other family members are book appointments with the same make-up artist or hairstylist, thus making at least one person late for the first part of the wedding, whether it's the civil ceremony or the preparation of the bride and groom.
On average, a bridal make-up can take up to an hour and a half, A make-up for the godmother or bridesmaids can take up to an hour and a quarter at most. Immediately afterwards it is worth considering a trip to the hairstylist, if they do not work together, and at least another hour for each person's hairstyle, or an hour and a half for the bride's.
One person cannot cope with too many appointments in a limited time! If the activity starts in the early part of the day for all appointments, up to 3-4 people should not be a problem depending on how early the activity starts, with enough time for all appointments to be ready on time.
Don't turn your event into a marathon, as is increasingly common. In certain situations you can save up to even 30 minutes from the day of the event, time you can spend relaxing with your loved ones, with the help of a well-defined wedding program.
It gives importance to travel from one location to another, whether you're traveling from the civil wedding to the religious wedding or from the photo shoot to the party, trying to keep the route as smooth as possible and choosing nearby options that won't put you on the road.
Definitely you don't always want to be on the run or to wander around the whole city like a merry-go-round, zipping from one side of town to the other and trying to avoid the inevitable traffic on a weekend day.
Small details make the difference! There is nothing shameful in ask for a helping hand. Considering how demanding some weddings in Romania can be, you'd kind of need it.
Distribute certain tasks parents, siblings and friends, but be careful not putting all the pressure on one person, unless you're going to pay for it, and we both know you're not. No friend deserves to be worked to exhaustion.
● The parents can take care of everything necessary for the religious marriage. “Wedding Rings, Pikets, Red Wine, etc.”
● Nurse can take care of (children if any), bulletins and all necessary paperwork for the civil marriage.
● Best friend can pick up bouquet, candles and flowers to put on your chest.
● The knights can help you with snacks and drinks for the civil and religious wedding.
There are over 19,000 churches in Romania today, which means you have a choice. But what really counts at a church for a religious marriage?
For you, it may be simple things like a church as close as possible, with seating for guests, beautiful, not too expensive, with a choir, short, etc. But for the photo and video team, you also want to consider a church that is as spacious as possible, naturally or artificially lit, and with a priest with a pleasant voice that can have a strong emotional impact on your video. You can ask the photo and video team for their opinion or ask them for a recommendation.
NOTES: If you think that the church you want to get married in is a trendy one, many other couples are opting for the same option as you, try to set your wedding date and time at least a year in advance, to make sure you don't miss your appointment.
There are two types of bride and groom cooking: The TRADITIONAL one with take your bride good day, flowers in the chest, barkers, family, sarmale, etc, where it is almost impossible to avoid the crowds. And MODERN cooking much more relaxing, with the bridesmaids and groomsmen as the bride and groom get ready, followed by a family photo shoot. Peace and quiet!
Personally, I'd opt for a hotel room. I must admit that I live in a newly renovated apartment, but is not enough nor does it compare to a hotel room in both space and look. You can also ask the photo and video team for their opinion.
An advantage is that you can start the preparations with the bridesmaids and groomsmen, and then have their parents and relatives show up for family photos, or you can invite them to join you at a date, depending on your preference. You may not even need a hotel room, but for some of us it is good to be able to consider this option as well.
There are too many traditions to keep track of. Cooking for the bride and groom, pardons, cock, colaci, etc. You must understand that it is your duty to filter this information and do only what you want and especially what you understand.
I'm not saying completely avoid any tradition, I probably would, but don't waste precious wedding day time, with things that don't make sense or you don't understand. If you ask anyone: What is the story behind the tradition? You'll get the classic answer “that's how it's done”.
Not to mention nobody really knows the tradition classics, there are always contradictions in how it is done or what is done and you get to the point where other people dictate your wedding, from their own imagination and what they have seen or heard at other events.
It's simple: look after yourself. Hydrate and eat a little when you can. This way you avoid dizziness and unpleasant or lack of energy.
Thanks to a busy schedule, over 85% of grooms forget to eat, being overwhelmed by emotions and adrenaline, or they are simply overstressed and cannot find time to take a break, always being pulled left and right.
Now, before the event you'll say it's impossible, But if I asked you at the end of the party if you managed to eat, only then would you agree.
The moment some grooms offer an invitation, they use lines like: I've come to give you a ticket, it's time to charge you, you're called to duty and so on.
Although these lines are intended as a joke, subconsciously, people will associate your wedding with something negative, but I'm also considering refusal as an option. And the only ones to blame for this are the brides and grooms, who don't know how to position their event in front of their guests.
When inviting your loved ones to join you, use kind words such as: I'd be so happy to have you with me and have the time of our lives.
Probably the biggest mistake brides and grooms make or sometimes family, is then when the „march” is requested” (a really irritating song) for the next 2-3 hours, repetitively all the guests present, including you. I don't think there's anything more stressful than that, and you probably don't want that.
Opt for a violin, saxophone or any kind of ambient music with good taste and relaxing for you and your guests. Give them a chance to get to know each other or tell stories without having to shout in each other's ears.
If a long train dress is what you want for your wedding, it is imperative that the strap is detachable, If you don't have a dress with a fastening system, or if you don't, choose a loose-fitting, lightweight dress that you can dance the night away in.
You don't want to be one of the brides waltzing the bridal waltz, but the rest of the party with the bridal train in your arms. This look will ruin your whole mood, your desire to dance, and it doesn't look good in your wedding photos or wedding video.
Plus, any choreography for the bridal waltz is almost impossible with a dress with a long train, which is uncomfortable and gets in the way at every step. Incidentally, a large proportion of today's brides opt for heavy smoke, an effect that will cover the entire dance floor anyway.
When you think about organizing the wedding step by step, you want to make sure everything comes out perfect and you tend to crowd the party schedule unintentionally, with far too many artistic moments.
One or two artistic moments are welcome at any wedding, whether it's a traditional dance troupe or stand up comedy.
Keep in mind that your guests are expected to have fun, dance and especially to interact with your wedding and not to see it as a show. So try not to overdo the artistic moments.
What's the key to your guests' happiness? How are you going to surprise them and what do you want to give them so that they remember and talk with pleasure about your event?
Hire a company or create your own games. We've thought of: giant jenga, corn hole, X&O, ring toss, darts, and the list can go on and on depending on the location, theme and your preferences.
Or why not invent one or more games yourself! Let's say „alcohol easter egg”, where your guests will find a variety of alcoholic beverages, along with a challenge and the opportunity to accumulate as many points as possible and receive a surprise at the end of the party.
The dance performances, photo booth and artistic moments are no longer enough. Everyone does the same, but few of them provide truly interactive games or activities for one, or more moments of your loved ones' pleasure.
This is not done! I personally was not and am not a fan of alcohol, but to be honest, in my career as a wedding photographer, after a long day of literally running around, one or two shots with my bride and groom on rare occasions was just the boost and dose of energy I needed.
I've known and followed hundreds of bands doing their job with excellence and in no situation I didn't see alcohol as a minus for them. On the contrary, I would say for them as well as for your guests, alcohol is a necessity because of the energy they transmitted during each musical program.
If you think your band might spring an unpleasant surprise, it's most likely because you didn't hire the right people in the first place.
Traditions connect us to the past, But what about the present and the future? Such a moment can waste up to 30 even 45 minutes of your event, depending on the number of guests present, which is why you may consider skipping this custom, which doesn't mean much to you or your guests anyway.
They would rather have your attention, make them feel appreciated or at least show that you care. You can do the least you can do as they are with you on the most important day of your life.
The guests are your responsibility and you are the host of the evening. Try to spend quality time with each guest and enjoy their company.
NOTES: If you're not a shy person, you can make a note in your wedding planner to give a 3-4 minute speech together before the opening of the evening, expressing gratitude and thanking everyone for coming, which will be much more appreciated in exchange for an unnecessary tradition.
I have participated in hundreds of these moments as a wedding photographer and I can wholeheartedly say that in 9 out of 10 cases, the activity itself is not worth the effort.
Some groups venture to clubs with a too far from the restaurant where the wedding is taking place, drivers can be more or less under the influence of alcohol, the possibility of being turned away right at the entrance of the club for various reasons and finally going to a park or a parking lot, where you take two or three photos, during which time you maybe you've already missed an oră from the party that you invested money, time, energy and that really matters.
Once at the restaurant, at least another 20-30 minutes are lost, during which time we negotiate and exchange the bride for empty miniature bottles of alcohol or bags of puff pastries and puffarine. Nothing new for your guests.
Lest your guests get bored at your wedding, you tend to either stress the band not to take breaks, or to hire a band, DJ and various artists to keep the music playing all evening.
Breaks are important! Both you and those present with you need time for various interactive activities, socializing, eating and recharging your batteries so you can get back on the dance floor again.
A blaring soundtrack throughout the party will do nothing but annoy your guests and literally drive them outside.
None of your guests are able to dance for 6 hours non-stop, in fact there are the risk that the dance floor is always empty, because your guests can't keep up the fun all evening.
When you know how to choose a wedding band appropriate for your event, performers should start with a slow-paced musical moment, and gradually increase the tempo faster and faster until the guests reach a peak of fun, after which must necessarily follow a break.
Giving tips to waiters present at your event, it's not a must, but it's certainly not an obligation, this gesture considerably improve the quality of services, insofar as the tip is offered at the beginning of the event, with the idea of stimulating the waiters' attention towards you and your guests.
What you shouldn't do is promise at the beginning of the event that if everything goes the way you want it to, they will be rewarded at the end.
Such a promise no longer works, considering that some brides may forget on the morning of the event about the promised tip or simply the service offered was not up to expectations, changing your perception of the promise made.
NOTES: Tips are offered to each waiter individually and not to one person, to be shared out. Tip may not be shared equally, But above all, when you offer someone a sum of money, you make a verbal agreement that the person in front of you feels an obligation.
I will try to be as transparent as possible. If the problem is solvable, there's no point in worrying, and if the problem is unsolvable, there's no point in worrying.
Don't let little things spoil your wellbeing! You think others haven't gone through what you are going through? They've all been wrong and they will be wrong again. Not everything will be perfect, exactly how you want your wedding to be, however hard you try.
The way you look at the situation is the most important, adopt a positive attitude and don't let anything get you down. Worrying won't fix yesterday, nor help tomorrow. Don't let little things spoil your day.
It's almost impossible to organize a wedding without even one unhappy guest. You can and should try avoid as many of the listed mistakes as possible. Remember that we are human, and humans make mistakes.
When faced with a certain unpleasant situation on your wedding day, take a deep breath, try to deal with what can be dealt with and move on without letting it affect you.
You have plenty of time to analyze what went well and what didn't a day or two after the wedding. Focus your energy on how you feel (it's your big event for a reason), how your guests feel or want it should come second.
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